I’ve seen countless posts talking about a Jonsa marriage. I’m not opposed to it, I think it makes sense especially after the Parental Reveal and the fact the Northern Lords do NOT trust Targs.
I’m more concerned by how it happens and specifically who suggests it. Sansa has been through hell, growing up in KL where she had no agency. She was told she was to marry Tyrion and that was that, her consent was inconsequential. Her betrothal to Ramsay was even worse, and once again, she had no real say in the matter. I want the Jonsa marriage to be her idea. I need it to be something she wants.
I’ve seen posts speculating that it could be Tyrion or even Varys who suggests the marriage between Jon and Sansa, and while both of those candidates are more than capable of coming up with the suggestion, it doesn’t make it any different from her earlier betrothals, with a bunch of men making decisions about her life, still treating less as a human being and more like a pawn.
I don’t hold Tyrion in high regard and I think he’s going more grey and morally ambiguous in the final season (more so than what we’ve seen in the past) Varys may be smart but he’s not familiar with the North, Sansa or Jon, he doesn’t know this particular political landscape.
Sansa is finally in a position of power, she’s home, she’s with her people, and for the first time, she has agency, over her life, her body and I’ll be damned if it’s yet another guy who thinks he knows best about what she should do next. Sansa is the Lady of Winterfell, and while she may not be the Queen in the North (debatable) she most certainly holds some amount of power. The Northern Lords are already teetering where support to Jon is concerned and I’m guessing that the knowledge that he bent the knee to D will come as an additional blow. The parental reveal will likely be the last straw. Sansa is an astute political player and she knows that the lords are fickle with their display of loyalty. The only way to hold power and keep the armies loyal to the North is to proclaim Jon a Stark and the only way of doing that is by marriage.
Also, once Jon learns that he’s a Targ, it will put throw a wrench in his carefully executed plans. He knows that D is paranoid and convinced that she’s the only surviving Targ and realising that she has competition for the IT will not endear Jon to her. However, it will cause even more turmoil for him internally, everything he thought he was will turn out to be a lie. He will share this knowledge with Sansa and Arya.
It would also kind of mirror Ned and Cat where they got married first then slowly fell in love, for Jon and Sansa, it will be inverted, they’re already in love, the parental reveal finally let’s them acknowledge their feelings and gives them the freedom to get married.
Now, I did wonder if it could be Jon who suggests a marriage but I immediately rejected that notion. Jon would never suggest it even he knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that Sansa was in love with him for precisely the reasons I outlined earlier in the post, he’d be the last person to suggest such a thing. He would also reject similar ideas from Davos and pretty much anyone else. The only person who could convince him is Sansa, with certainty that she suggests it not because she feels bullied or coerced but because she genuinely wants to marry him.